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I think it is extremely important to be confident in yourself.  To be confident in the decisions you make and to hold yourself in a confident manner around other people.  Being confident helps you hold things together and helps you make decisions and move forward in life instead of sitting on the sidelines constantly doubting and second guessing yourself.  Usually confidence is something that is built over time as you become better at something, or gain understanding in something.

Don’t be overconfident, watch yourself

There is some danger in being an overly confident person, or letting your confidence move into arrogance in areas of our lives.  Be confident in the areas of your life that you need to be confident in and have learned enough to be confident. In other areas of life you need to be a learner and teachable.  

Don’t let your overconfidence override the importance of others in your journey

The difference between the two is that if you find yourself acting confident in a certain area of life.but are not learning and growing in that area enough to earn the confidence you are showing then you might find yourself becoming arrogant.  Sometimes when we have so much confidence in an area we are unwilling or unable to hear other people speak on the same area. That’s when confidence becomes arrogance and that’s when we run the risk of turning people away from us instead of drawing them in.  Afterall, everyone has a right to have a say and we can’t possibly know every aspect of everything. We need other peoples input and ideas to help us become better in life.

No matter how smart you are you still don’t know it all

The secret is to remember that it is impossible for anyone to know everything in life.  Even in regards to one topic it is difficult to honestly say you know it all. Even if you have read everything that there is on a topic, and studied it day and night can you honestly say that you know it all?  What you know is what is available to you, but what you don’t know is exactly that, things you don’t know.  

Sometimes we need to fake it until we make it

With that said, I think it is also important to sometimes fake a little confidence even if you lack it in certain areas,  you know the old saying, “fake it until you make it” but I also believe you should be doing whatever you can to earn that confidence.  You should certainly never fake confidence in an area that might put someone in danger, or that might cause trouble for yourself or those around you.  Like faking you are an expert in CPR in an emergency situation when you actually know nothing about CPR…that would not be a good idea!

Work hard to earn the right to be confident

Be confident, fake a little confidence if you need it but work hard towards earning the right to be fully confident.  Don’t forget to check yourself and ensure you are not being arrogant and always remember that other people have good input too.  It’s important to listen and take their ideas and thoughts into account as well as your own.

People like being around those that are confident, but arrogance turns them away

If you do it right, people should be praising you for your confidence and not criticising you for your arrogance.  You can do it, you can be confident and humble at the same time. You can make decisions and be confident in them and you can share your knowledge and wisdom with others while being open for feedback and even a little criticism through it.  

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